I have a small dilemma. I need to write a condolence card to someone who had a loved one pass away. And I just can’t seem to do it.
As a kid, my parents made us write thank-you notes to relatives far away who sent money or presents. They needed to know we received it and that we were grateful. I hated doing it, not that I wasn’t pleased by their gift. What to say to someone you didn’t see very often? How can you avoid sounding crass? “Thanks for the dough, bro!”
I don’t want to be too breezy. I don’t want to be too mournful. I didn’t know the person well, and I don’t know the recipient of my card very well, either. But I need to do it. While I know that writing notes and sending them via snail mail is very last millennium, sometimes no other type of correspondence will do.
I’ve been putting this off for over a month now. I know, I know; I’m generally not much of a procrastinator. I kinda stink at it. But there are some things that need a bit of – inspiration. Or possibly finesse. Not to mention better penmanship. But there you go.
I don’t doubt that I *should* do it. At all. My only obstacle is that I don’t want to leave the wrong impression.
I was mulling all these “shoulds” and “don’ts” over and I realized something: there is no wrong way to do this. Oh sure, I could make an idiot of myself by glossing over the great loss. But I know I won’t do that. This person needs to know that I care and I’m thinking about them. It doesn’t have to be a lengthy missive. It doesn’t even have to be a particularly witty note. It just needs to be. There is no wrong way to do this.
All right. Taking a deep breath, and getting to it now.
What holds you back from doing the write thing?